Choice theory developed by Dr. Willam Glasser teaches that all long lasting psychological problems are relationship problems. The problem relationship is always part of our present life. What happened in the past has everything to do with what we are today, but we can only satisfy our basic needs right now and plan to continue satisfying them in the future. This is good news because if this is the case, we can work on our present life and develop hope for our future. We cannot change the past or fix the past, but we can learn from it and work on the present to facilitate change for now and the future. Becoming self aware of what relationships we want is the first step. Often times people work hard on relationships when really they have no commonalities with this person, nor desire to be close to them. Guilt often keeps us from the reality of a relationship. For example: People will often stay close with a friend they have had since childhood, just because they think it’s the right thing to do. The friendship may be uncomfortable, unpleasant, and downright abusive at times, but we often think that we “must” remain friends and keep this relationship in tact even if its already dead. People change and grow apart, and go separate ways. Its O.K to let go of friends from the past. Its actually healthy to reflect on the people you surround yourself with and ask yourself: why do I like this person? What do we have in common? What qualities do I like about them? If they are supportive, loving and kind to you, work on the relationship and reciprocate. If they are mean, nasty, and go against your moral values, let them go, they will find others they have more in common with and so will you.